Sometimes it is all too easy to get down in the dumps and to just let yourself wallow there.
We begin by re-hashing things we said or did (or didn't say or do) and really start getting down on ourselves. And then we seal the deal with a quick perusal through our friends facebook or linkedin profiles just to really rub our faces in all that's wrong with our lives.
Well friends, this is not a good place to be. It's full of pain and negative self-talk. Let's stop the madness!
To really boost the positivity in your life (as I am trying to do in mine!) do these 3 things:
1. No complaining.
A lot of us fall into the habit of complaining. A lot. It becomes something easy to say in small talk and even a way to bond with people.
But it sucks! And really, no one wants to hang around with a negative Nancy because that crap rubs off!
First you need to realize that you are in fact complaining about something and then tell yourself there will be no more of it. It's no longer allowed! And if that urge continues to strike, then you need to do something about the thing that is bothering you so much. Honesty is the best policy!
This one is something I've been working on for a loooong time. It is so easy to get sucked in by all the things/friends/jobs/lovers we don't have - when really we are forgetting everything that we do have!
A great place to start is thinking of a few things everyday that you are grateful for, holding each item in your mind for a bit and really feeling it. Also, you could participate Gala's Things I Love Thursdays or you could be like me and write them in your daily journal.
A new thing I am doing (did my first today and I am SO excited!) is writing one letter each week to someone who I am thankful for and letting them know why. It's always so awesome to receive mail - and it was equally as awesome to write it!
Source: Staley MC
3. Self-love and care.
It is really difficult to be positive in your life if you are hyper-critical of everything that you do. Just relax! And definitely don't compare yourself to others because everyone has their own path. We are who we are. All we can be is ourselves!
If you are hating yourself or taking poor care of yourself, you are pretty much guaranteed to be swimming in a big pool of the negative.
Forgive yourself. Accept yourself. Be active and eat right. Do the things you know you need to do to feel good (for me: at least 8 hours of sleep!). Treat yourself. Really. You will feel so much better.
Do you have any tips for boosting positivity? Or anything you've done to help yourself get out of the dumps?